Top Dating games May 26, 2008 by Abraxas Dating games: As far as we're concerned they’re part of every relationship, so get used to them. Of course, some dating games are just harmless ploys used to uncover information about a potential partner, while others are selfish attempts to manipulate and subjugate. There are two ways to look at the issue of playing dating games in the relationship world: Either identify and learn how to react or do nothing and get continually played by the women in your life. We want to address the former approach, with a special emphasis on why girls play dating games and how you can easily turn them around and use them to your advantage. Let the dating games begin. Hard to get You know this one: She comes across as completely ambivalent about any romantic possibilities with you, yet makes sure to say just enough to suggest she’s actually up for it. Keep in mind that the girl who plays hard to get does it because she can afford to. She has any number of interested suitors and she wants to see how badly each of them wants her. It’s one of the most common dating games around, but that doesn’t mean you should be fooled by it. Dating game power play: Play the dating game and continue to pursue her, but you have to make your intentions so clear that she has no rightful cause to keep you in the dark. If she starts blowing you off for arranged meetings and being generally discourteous toward you, don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing that you’re annoyed by her actions. If she’s naive enough to play this childish game, then she’s equally naive enough to get played by it. Turn the tables; act like you don’t even care that she stood you up and kept you waiting for an hour. Tell her you got in touch with some buddies who were playing pool in a bar around the corner and ended up having a great night. You can also hint at other girls who may (or may not) be in the picture and if she questions it, politely inform her that you aren’t about to devote all your energy toward a girl who may not even be interested. She needs to realize that she’s not the only one with options and that you’re not going to waste time on a girl who can’t make up her mind or seems more into dating games then she is you. Teasing She tantalizingly hints at sexual episodes and then retracts them when the time comes to get down to business. This dating game is nothing more than a means to gauge your level of interest or to remain in control of a blossoming relationship. She wants to be the one who dictates the pace of things, and why shouldn’t you let her believe that’s the case? Dating game power play: Don’t give her power by showing her the agonizing effect that the teasing has on you. Of course, it’s easier said than done, but pretend you agree with whatever excuse she makes for blowing off another physical encounter. If she’s hot, she won't be used to that kind of treatment and might even make it her mission to conquer you. Whatever you do, don’t beg for it. She may cave in and give you what you want, but not without making you sacrifice a whole lot of dignity first. Inspiring jealousy In this dating game, she flirts hard with other men right in front of you, making it abundantly clear that she is not yet yours to possess. She might do this to make you squirm or she might want to see if you’re the type of guy who gives up at the first sign of trouble. Either way, she plays this dating game to provoke a reaction from you, and you need to make sure that your reaction says one thing: I’m no sucker. Dating game power play: Take her aside and call her out. Declare your interest by saying something like: “I thought things were going really well between us and I want you to know that I’m interested in taking this further. However, if you’re not looking to commit to one guy, let me know right now so I can move on and stop wasting my time.” Most girls will appreciate the blunt honesty of this type of confrontation. If she accuses you of overreacting, then consider calling it quits right there because she’s probably the type of girl who plays dating games for all the wrong reasons. Jumping through hoops When a woman plays the "jumping through hoops" dating game, she actually has the calculated nerve to put you through a series of trials in order to see how far you’ll go for her. She makes ludicrous and whimsical requests like asking you to go to the shop and get her a pack of Skittles (and then pick out the green ones when you get home). While you’re out, she might even phone one of her friends to tell her how tight she’s got you wrapped around her little finger. Don’t let this dating game happen -- ever. Dating game power play: Decide for yourself what favors and requests are actually suitable for any man to consider, and be consistent when granting or denying them. If she wants a servant, tell her unequivocally that you’re not him. 
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